“Healthy boundaries” is one of those therapy-tinged phrases that is often used and rarely understood. If you ever find yourself nodding along when a friend suggests you [...]
How you related to your mother when you were young has a profound impact on your adult relationships—and your relationship with yourself. Repairing your relationship with your [...]
You support one another during times of major change like marriage, divorce, and retirement; you comfort one another during times of loss; you help one another find [...]
Apologies have been in the news a lot lately — both genuine apologies and refusals to apologize. Every day, women and men come forward to name those [...]
Most of us have at least one passive-aggressive person in our life. Maybe it’s a mother who nitpicks and criticizes everything we do, or a co-worker who [...]
10 Things Not to Do On a First Date We go into the first date experience full of fear and excitement. Excited that maybe this [...]
Is it possible to fine-tune your intuition? Absolutely. Have you ever been on a date and thought "I have a funny feeling about this person"? [...]
ruining your relationship Learning to express anger in a healthy way will help couples resolve conflicts, instead of letting them simmer. Every Saturday night, Bill [...]
I read once about a sign Oprah Winfrey posts in her office: "Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space." I think it would [...]
Growing up most of us had two models for what adult romantic relationships should look like. One, we had our parents or caregivers––which for many of us [...]
Someone hurts us in a way that feels irreparable and we say, "I will never forgive you." Someone wounds us emotionally or physically and we think, "That's [...]
It is often said that in the best relationships, partners bring out the best in each other. Sometimes in the midst of the stresses and ups and [...]
Revenge is appealing. Someone hurts us and we're convinced that revenge will make us feel whole again. Just thinking about revenge can trigger positive emotions so going [...]
Between Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year's, many of us spend more time with our families in the final five weeks of the year than we will [...]
Secretly Passive-Aggressive A relationship with a passive-aggressive person is exhausting. You’re never sure if “I’m not mad” really means “I’m mad,” or if their “I’m [...]
Trying to control your emotions doesn't work because it can't work. When you go out in the world and interact with people, turn on the radio or [...]
I believe that arguing is part of every healthy relationship. You and your partner won't agree one-hundred-percent of the time and sometimes one or both of you [...]
Can't figure out why you keep having the same arguments? Read on ... September will always be back-to-school season in my mind––the sadness of summer ending, the [...]
Few of us grew up in an emotionally safe environment, a place where we could be truthful about our feelings. Instead, we inherited faulty beliefs about our [...]
Right now, you are talking to yourself. All day, every day, you talk to yourself about the world around you––narrating, interpreting, judging. More importantly, you talk to [...]
You enjoy your partner's company, share his concerns, and feel connected to her even when you're separate. These are signs you are attached to your partner. The [...]
How you and your partner handle anger and conflict plays a key role in the success of your relationship—a rewarding connection is incompatible with suppressed feelings and restricted [...]
After a harsh winter, we're grateful to pack away our coats and gloves and do a little spring-cleaning. While you're sweeping and tidying your home, give some [...]
"We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures." –Thornton Wilder After the box of chocolates has [...]
Have you ever struggled maintaining a good relationship with your partner? And to meet your partner's needs? I know I have, I somehow always seem to mess [...]
The holiday season and dysfunctional family dynamics go together like turkey and cranberry sauce or a stocking full of presents and an empty wallet. You get in [...]
Ask yourself, when in conflict: Does your pulse race and your heart pound? Do you talk over the other person? Do you turn trivial things into causes [...]
Unhealthy responses to anger can form an infinite loop: small disagreements erupt into full-blown fights and fights end with slammed doors and hurt feelings. This may be hard [...]
All of us are passive-aggressive. That is, we use a mild form of passive-aggressiveness: “saying yes when we mean no,” according to psychotherapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D, M.F.T. [...]
Finds’ friend, Andrea Brandt, PhD. recently started blogging for Psychology Today. I love her first post on how it can be Hard for You to say "I'm [...]
