How do you know if you use passive-aggressiveness in your relationship to express your hidden anger? When you’ve hidden your anger from everyone, including yourself, it can [...]
We tend to think of emotional reactions as universal. The way I react to an event is the same way everyone does, we tell ourselves. But study [...]
Giving your partner the silent treatment, breaking a water glass in the middle of a fight, responding to criticism with the meanest thing you can think to [...]
“I hope I never turn into my mother,” you say. “You sound just like your father,” you’re told. If one or both of your caregivers was passive-aggressive, [...]
If you have a quick temper, if you shout, if you slam doors, your problem may not actually be your anger. The real emotion that may be [...]
When your partner is passive-aggressive, it can feel like passive-aggression is the third party in your relationship. Passive-aggressiveness not only hurts your bond with your partner, but [...]
Most people are afraid of conflict in their relationships. No one really enjoys getting into arguments with their partner, right? But to some, conflict is more terrifying [...]
Anger doesn't feel good. It makes our hearts race and our palms sweat. It makes us feel anxious and scared. We grew up in a society driven [...]
You're probably familiar with the adage, "The secret to a happy marriage is to never go to bed angry." I've been thinking about this a lot while [...]
Anger is a messy, complicated emotion. The person or situation that angers you and the thing that sets off your angry reaction can be completely separate. You [...]
HELLO! My name is Andrea Brandt and I am a marriage and family therapist located in Santa Monica, California, and the author of the book “Mindful Anger: A [...]
Trying to control your emotions doesn't work because it can't work. When you go out in the world and interact with people, turn on the radio or [...]
Your good friend says something hurtful; your partner seems remote and uninvolved; your coworker makes a new demand when you're already overwhelmed. Stress hormones flood your body, [...]
Count to 10. Pound a pillow. Go in your car and scream. These are popular anger management techniques that you've probably heard over and over again, maybe [...]
How you and your partner handle anger and conflict plays a key role in the success of your relationship—a rewarding connection is incompatible with suppressed feelings and restricted [...]
If you frequently find yourself acting out — drinking heavily, starting fights, having affairs, shaming or stonewalling others — or if your body feels perpetually on edge [...]
When holding onto a relationship feels like a matter of life and death, you may find yourself suppressing your anger and negative feelings in order to keep [...]
Every emotion you feel is a message. Emotions tell you how your environment is affecting you, when your boundaries have been violated, and when your needs aren’t [...]
If you were asked to draw a picture of an angry person, what would you draw? Your figure would probably have clenched fists, a red face, maybe [...]
Anger often makes us uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable to witness and uncomfortable to feel. Witnessing your child's anger can be especially uncomfortable. In order to relieve this feeling, [...]
We tend to overuse the term passive aggressive. "Oh, he is so passive aggressive!" we'll say about someone who annoys us. Real passive aggressive behavior is more [...]
Ask yourself, when in conflict: Does your pulse race and your heart pound? Do you talk over the other person? Do you turn trivial things into causes [...]
How do you forgive someone who has wronged you, and why should you do it at all. Forgiveness isn't something you do for the other person. Whether [...]
While I was working part-time, I helped Finds’ friend, Dr. Andrea Brandt, develop a workshop for employee wellness programs called, Mindful Anger: Keys to Emotional Freedom for [...]
From insecurity and helplessness to procrastination and wanting to give up, anger can make your work-life a struggle. This may come as a surprise, but anger can also benefit [...]
"Stop crying this instant!" "Don't take that attitude with me!" You might not hear these commands anymore, but the things your parents and caregivers told you when you [...]
Children are like little mapmakers. They create meaning out of the events they witness (whether good or bad), and place them on their internal map of the [...]
Past anger—whether a grudge, resentment, pent-up rage, or a slight committed by someone you were close to years ago and never forgave—is like a millstone hanging around [...]
*The following is a guest post from Psych Central's Margarita Tartakovsky, MS A pivotal part of building a more positive body image and practicing compassionate self-care is [...]
