4 Ways Childhood Emotional Trauma Impacts Us as Adults Whether you witnessed or experienced violence as a child or your caretakers emotionally or physically neglected [...]
Is it possible to fine-tune your intuition? Absolutely. Have you ever been on a date and thought "I have a funny feeling about this person"? [...]
Here are 5 things you need to know about anxiety. "I'm so stressed out right now." We hear this often and may say it, too. [...]
ruining your relationship Learning to express anger in a healthy way will help couples resolve conflicts, instead of letting them simmer. Every Saturday night, Bill [...]
7 Secrets to a Successful Relationship After 50 Whether you've been with the same person for 30 years or you're finding new love half a [...]
When you love yourself, you don't rely on others for your self-esteem or self-image. When you love yourself, you feel comfortable in your skin and accept yourself [...]
Through your youth and early adulthood, you accumulate many varied experiences, both good and bad. You make false starts, turn corners, try new things, meet new people, [...]
Positive Outlook Whether it's January 1 or June 30, every day is one in which you can make a resolution to improve your life. Every [...]
Andrea talks about the signs of passive-aggressiveness: being negative in good times, chronic lateness, and forgetfulness. The person never understands why their behavior angers others. Passive-aggressive people [...]
Don't Just Survive the Holidays, Enjoy Them It's that time of year again. The displays of small potted Christmas Trees and poinsettia greet you at [...]
I read once about a sign Oprah Winfrey posts in her office: "Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space." I think it would [...]
If you have a quick temper, if you shout, if you slam doors, your problem may not actually be your anger. The real emotion that may be [...]
When your partner is passive-aggressive, it can feel like passive-aggression is the third party in your relationship. Passive-aggressiveness not only hurts your bond with your partner, but [...]
Podcast - This interview will give you a great 15 minute review on Andrea's book Mindful Anger Fantastic upbeat interview with Tammy Lynn - she asks Dr. [...]
Most people are afraid of conflict in their relationships. No one really enjoys getting into arguments with their partner, right? But to some, conflict is more terrifying [...]
Therapists like myself spend a lot of time talking about self-love. But if you’re like many of my patients, you might not know what self-love means exactly. [...]
Growing up most of us had two models for what adult romantic relationships should look like. One, we had our parents or caregivers––which for many of us [...]
When a client comes to you in emotional distress and you sense that childhood wounds are the cause, your instinct is to spring into action. I’ve spent [...]
Anger doesn't feel good. It makes our hearts race and our palms sweat. It makes us feel anxious and scared. We grew up in a society driven [...]
Podcast - Untangling Anger by Dr. Charles Sophy. Podcast Interview for Mindful Anger Listen Here
Someone hurts us in a way that feels irreparable and we say, "I will never forgive you." Someone wounds us emotionally or physically and we think, "That's [...]
Podcast - Laura Reagan interviews Andrea about her book Mindful Anger. Listen Here
You're probably familiar with the adage, "The secret to a happy marriage is to never go to bed angry." I've been thinking about this a lot while [...]
Anger is a messy, complicated emotion. The person or situation that angers you and the thing that sets off your angry reaction can be completely separate. You [...]
HELLO! My name is Andrea Brandt and I am a marriage and family therapist located in Santa Monica, California, and the author of the book “Mindful Anger: A [...]
It is often said that in the best relationships, partners bring out the best in each other. Sometimes in the midst of the stresses and ups and [...]
Revenge is appealing. Someone hurts us and we're convinced that revenge will make us feel whole again. Just thinking about revenge can trigger positive emotions so going [...]
Between Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year's, many of us spend more time with our families in the final five weeks of the year than we will [...]
A relationship with a passive-aggressive person is exhausting. You’re never sure if “I’m not mad” really means “I’m mad,” or if their “I’m too tired” really means [...]
Trying to control your emotions doesn't work because it can't work. When you go out in the world and interact with people, turn on the radio or [...]
