4. Think Beyond Fixing a Problem

Set your sights higher than mere solutions to problems, and focus on what you really want, says Andrea Brandt, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Mindful Aging: Embracing Your Life After 50 to Find Fulfillment, Purpose, and Joy. “The difference in results is enormous,” she says.

“A clear example is with health: If you’re dealing with an illness, focusing on the solution would mean seeking a cure,” Brandt says. “But if the goal is not just the elimination of that illness but rather vibrant health, removing the illness may not achieve that.”

A better approach: “I focus on what it is I’m really after—excellent health—and I go about discovering and doing what it takes to achieve that.”