Whether it’s January 1 or June 30, every day is one in which you can make a resolution to improve your life. Every morning when you wake up, you can choose to live letting negative energy control your life, or you can choose to live with a positive outlook.
I’m writing this at the beginning of 2017 as we leave 2016 behind, a year that has been an especially tough one for many. When you’ve had a bad day, week, month, or year, you can end up in a negativity spiral. You feel upset and angry, so you project your upset and angry feelings out to the world and see everything through that lens. People respond to your negative energy with their own negative energy, which just makes you feel more terrible. It’s a spiral of awfulness. But it’s possible to end this cycle.
Here are six steps to transform your outlook on life, to stop your negativity and see life positively.
1. Stop complaining
When you sit around complaining all day about how terrible your life is, your life is going to be terrible. Complaining, wallowing, self-pity: none of these things are creators of an enjoyable, satisfying life. The first thing you need to do to transform your outlook on life is to stop complaining about how bad your life is. Even though you don’t have the tools yet to make your life better, you already have one to stop making your life worse.
2. Practice thought stopping
Before you can open yourself up to positive thinking, you’ve got to stop your negative thinking. When all of your thoughts about the world, situations, and other people are negative, negativity will be all you know. Remember: energy follows thought.
You can practice thought stopping by becoming more aware of when your thoughts are based on negativity rather than facts. When you recognize that you are thinking in a negative, rather than factual, way, you stop the thought before it can cloud your perception.
3. End your “yes, but” attitude
“Yes, but” is a marker phrase of a negative outlook. When you “yes, but” life, you see the hole instead of the doughnut. When asked “Do you like your job?” you respond, “Yes, but it doesn’t pay well.” When someone suggests you look for a better-paying job, you respond, “Yes, but then I might have to move to a different city,” and so on.