8 Keys to Eliminating Passive-Aggressiveness
Guidance for dealing with this common and frustrating form of behavior.
Many people often say “yes” to something when they’d rather say “no.” They offer cooperation through words but follow up with how they really feel—in actions that contradict their words. That’s passive-aggression. At its heart, passive-aggression is about being untrue to oneself, which makes it impossible to have a clean relationship with others. Passive-aggression as a communication method doesn’t make someone “bad.” It is simply a strategy learned in childhood as a coping mechanism, a hard-to-break habit. Changing passive-aggressive behavior requires knowledge, tools, and practice, as outlined here.
The book offers effective methods for transforming passive-aggression into healthy assertiveness to communicate in constructive ways through eight keys: Recognize Your Hidden Anger; Reconnect Your Emotions to Your Thoughts; Listen to Your Body; Set Healthy Boundaries; Communicate Assertively; Interact Using Mindfulness; Disable the Enabler; and Problem-Solve for Better Outcomes. Hands-on exercises are featured; enabling readers to better understand themselves.
“A clear and practical guide to tackling the enormously frustrating problem of passive-aggressive behavior, an issue that plagues both personal and business relationships. The 8 keys are powerful tools designed to end the reflexive suppression of anger, which later shows up as an infuriating ‘Huh? Me? What did I do?’ Dr. Brandt has done a masterful job providing strategies for dealing with the malignant passive-aggressive behaviors that secretly lie at the root of entrenched, perpetual problems. I wholeheartedly recommend this guide.”
— Diana Shulman, JD, PhD, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, Los Angeles, CA
“Dr. Andrea Brandt’s brilliant book unpacks passive-aggressive behavior lucidly, describing its root causes and immediate triggers. Her wonderful case vignettes and exercises teach the reader how to replace provocative and distancing behavior with assertive and caring communication. The result is enhanced closeness and love in your most important relationships.”
—James Gottfurcht, PhD, Clinical Psychologist and President of Psychology of Money Consultants[/one_half_last]
Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom (Coming March 2014!)
Most people grow up thinking anger is bad: We shouldn’t feel it, and if we do, we certainly shouldn’t show it. Unfortunately, repressing anger doesn’t make it disappear. Instead, we end up with physical and emotional ailments, addictions and other self-defeating behaviors, and the very explosions we were trying to avoid. In this book, renowned psychotherapist and anger expert Dr. Andrea Brandt reveals the merits of this misunderstood emotion and shows how mindfulness of our anger—nonjudgmentally focusing attention and awareness on it—can help us identify its cause, receive its message, and channel its energy into enhanced communication and relationships.
Living Beyond Anger, Living with Love Workbook
Strategies and activities that will help you harness feelings of anger to create positive payoffs. The workbook includes a Conflict Resolution Checklist; Daily Anger Journal, How to tell if You Have a Problem, How to Express Anger in a Healthy Manner, Communication & Listening Techniques, Signs for the Expression of Unhealthy Guilt, and How to Handle an Angry Ex.
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Transform Anger Into Money Workbook
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The Anger Zone CD with Andrea Brandt, Ph.D., M.F.T.
In this engaging and instructional CD, Dr. Andrea Brandt combines entertainment with education, to teach the anger management skills you can use to improve relationships and explains how the positive aspects of anger can enhance your self-esteem. Produced by the Academy Radio Theater.
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Turn Adrenaline into Money (6-CD Set)
Money and anger (more than sex!) can drive couples apart … unless they consciously address necessary changes. This workbook will help you learn to: transform poverty thinking into prosperity thinking, notice warning signals that your anger has been triggered around money and more … You CAN become more aware of your thinking and behavior around money and anger and learn to develop better approaches.
These days it’s easy to get your adrenaline pumping about your money concerns, your job, business, retirement and family’s financial challenge.! Imagine taking that adrenaline power and redirecting it into a positive force… actually freeing yourself financially, improving relationships and behaving more rationally.
You can learn powerful tools and valuable lessons that affect your life in profoundly positive ways:
* Using Psychology of Money to reduce financial fear and loss
* Increasing Prosperity Thinking and financial empowerment
* Developing mind-body awareness to turn financial stress and anger into abundance
* Identifying and controlling anger triggers
You’ll do more than just listen; you’ll take action by participating in stimulating. This 6 CD Set will make an enormous difference in helping you create the prosperous life you’ve always wanted!